Please, no more Londons, Issys, Alexs, Gerhards

Trigger warning: child abuse, child murder, disabled abuse, Nazi genocide, euthanasia, ablest language

Another autistic child killed by a parent. A lot of people I follow on the interwebs will say this is about lack of services or a parent pushed too far.

I think it’s about the same things that led white men to lynch men of colour, led men to batter their wives to death, led George Zimmerman to shoot Trayvon Martin and on and on, ad infinitum. Someone thought their lives mattered more than someone else’s.

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Dissent and Autistic Communities

Early on in my career as a fundraiser, I heard about this amazing management expert who thought businesses could learn a lot about managing from charities.

Peter Drucker was his name and there was always at least one slide in any presentation on fundraising way back then that had a quote from him.

The only one that ever really stuck was:

Dissent, even conflict, is necessary, indeed desirable.

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My mother’s example

Today would have been my mother’s birthday.

I don’t expect I could ever forget it, but just in case it’s in all of my online calendars and it’s in my Blackberry.

When she passed away in 2009, there had been many times in my life where it looked like the last time. I almost convinced myself in September of 2009 that despite all of the medical professionals saying it was really the end this time, they would be mistaken one last time.

My mother was a fighter. Nothing came easily for her.

Ruth on her 79th Birthday

Ruth on her 79th Birthday

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